Self master and self discipline are the roots of good relationships with others.
What we are communicates far more eloquently than anything we say or do.To affirm a person' s worth or potential, you may have to look at him with they eye of faith and treat him in terms of his potential, not his behavior.
The following three character traits are essential to primary greatness:
- Integrity. I define integrity as the value we place on ourselves. As we clearly identify our values and proactively organize and execute around our priorities on a daily basis, we develop self awareness and self value by making and keeping commitments. If we can't make and keep commitments to ourselves as well as to others, our commitments become meaningless. We know it, and others know it. They sense our duplicity and become guarded
- Maturity. I define maturity as the balance between courage and consideration. If a person can express his feelings and convictions with courage balanced with consideration for the feelings and convictions of another person, he is mature. If he lacks internal maturity and emotional strength, he might try to borrow strength from his position, power, credentials, seniority, or affiliations.
- Abundance Mentality. Our thinking is that there is plenty out there for everybody. This abundance mentality flows out of a deep sense of personal worth and security. It results in sharing recognition, profits, and responsibility. It opens up creative new options and alternatives. It turns personal joy and fulfillment outward. It recognizes unlimited possibilities for positive interaction, growth, and development. Most people are deeply scripted in the scarcity mentality. They see life as a finite pie: if someone gets a big piece of the pie, it means less for everybody else. It's the zero sum paradigm of life. People with a scarcity mentality have a hard time sharing recognition, credit, power, or profit. They also have a tough time being genuinely happy for the success of other people even, and sometimes especially, members of their own family or close friends and associates. It's almost as if something were being taken from them when someone else receives special recognition. A character rich in integrity, maturity, and the abundance mentality has a genuineness that goes far beyond technique. Your character is constantly radiating, communicating. From it, people come to trust or distrust you. If your life runs hot and cold, if you're both caustic and kind, if your private performance doesn't square with your public performance, people won't open up to you, even if they want and need your love or help. they won't feel safe enough to expose their opinions and tender feelings.
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